Whether on the home-front with spouse, kids, friends and family, or in your professional life, you may be experiencing stress at times, which is, unfortunately classified as 'normal'. While you will have your own personal stressors, the following simple practice will prevent you from going into overwhelm and enable you to recharge your energy the moment you use it. Read on...
This is a follow on from last month’s blog.
MINDFUL LIVING EVERY MOMENT OF YOUR LIFE WITH I.P.A.:
Integrated Practical Awareness
When I became a busy entrepreneur (having raised 3 boys as a single parent) I couldn’t really see myself sitting down every day to meditate. This was a fortunate challenge as it caused me to develop a dynamic type of 'walking mindfulness' I call I.P.A.: Integrated Practical Awareness. If you already meditate daily, this will add to your practice, allowing you to develop internal and external awareness throughout your day, for sharper awareness and deeper fulfilment.
FIRST: LET’S DEFINE STRESS – IT’S NOT WHAT YOU THINK!
Before we can deal effectively with stress, we must first identify the nature of it. The causes of stress will be many, but its nature is only one. Being busy is often mistaken for being stressed. Yet, one doesn’t necessarily go with the other.
You could be really busy and be quite tired, but not stressed in the least. In fact, you could be at the beginning of an enterprise you have just created, using your talent, and doing something you love, working an 80-100-hour week. This is far from abnormal at the beginning of a new venture.
Or, you could have very little going on and feel completely stressed and overwhelmed!
While different stresses affect different individuals, depending on their personal level of resilience, the mechanism is the same: stress is created the moment we attempt to control an external situation that we cannot change, or that has already come to pass.
Stress, like any other emotional internal state, is a result and not a cause. It is the result of a thought or a belief. Therefore, refusing to accept what has already come to pass can only disempower us.
Trying to resolve it solely using external means is futile.
Stress begins with a simple phrase such as ‘This can’t be happening . . .’ or ‘I can’t cope with this . . .’ or ‘This is killing me!’
While we certainly have limited control on some external situations, sometimes none at all, we can certainly choose our reactions, and what meaning we attach to them. These give us the powerful mental images with which we create our life, and the next set of events.
Being able to get a handle on this is essential, which is why you will find I.P.A. invaluable. Having instant access to your own internal resources spells the difference between feeling that you cannot cope—and going into overwhelm—or winning the day, no matter what!
TOOL ONE—THE B.B.C. PRACTICE
This first practice is a very simple process that will afford you all the benefits of meditation. With daily practise, you will gain distance and respite from the tyrannical mind-emotion duo. I call it ‘tuning in to your B.B.C.’, which is your Body Breath Connection. It is a very simple method, allowing you to transform your personal triggers into allies and reminders. This practice will insure that you can turn any perceived adversity to your own advantage. Guaranteed.
Practising the B.B.C. is particularly useful when:
You are in a crisis or in a critical situation.
You have just heard some difficult or bad news.
You are extremely busy and only have a few seconds to pull yourself together.
You feel the need for an immediate boost of vital life force or energy.
You simply need a break. There is only one of you around, after all!
You need to reduce your stress levels in the moment (job interview, meeting, making an important decision, meeting a date, etc.).
You need to access your higher mind to come up with an answer or an innovative solution quickly.
HOW TO TUNE INTO YOUR B.B.C.
Put your attention on your breathing. Don’t alter it in any way, simply pay attention to it. As you witness it, you may find yourself naturally inhaling and exhaling a little deeper, which is highly beneficial.
Put your attention on your feet. Feel your shoes on your feet and feel the ground beneath them. This allows you to become ‘grounded’ or ‘earthed’.
It doesn’t matter what floor your office or flat is on, there are foundations to the building. You are connected and grounded.
BENEFITS OF THIS PRACTICE
As you shift your focus from being engaged in ideas that may be stressing you to tuning in to your B.B.C., your mind-emotion is getting a little respite. It also has all the added benefits of mindfulness.
Do not be deceived by the simplicity of this practice. It yields many benefits, even if you only do it for a few seconds. The success lies in repeated practise.
Take this moment to practise this simple step now.
Next, let’s make sure you use this simple practice as often as possible as it will help build up your stress busting muscle and keep you calm so that you are better able to handle any situation when it arises.
With extraordinary and outrageous belief in you!
Dr. Mahayana I. Dugast
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Dr. Mahayana I. Dugast is the founder of NeuroBiology Reprogramming™, a Practitioners & Teachers Training.